When we organize an event, we usually focus on making everything perfect.
Many times it is in order to please the guests, who are usually many. It is necessary to remember that the celebration is ours, not someone else's, and that to enjoy it we must feel comfortable. It is not necessary to invite the whole neighborhood or those relatives we do not know.
Sometimes it is necessary to reduce our guest list to avoid it from being endless and to stick to our budget.
The pandemic has helped us understand that it is possible to celebrate with the essential people and have a memorable time. It may be that thanks to this, in the future social events will become a little more intimate. However, it is likely that we will continue to face the dilemma of not knowing who to eliminate from our guest list.
In order to get a definitive and appropriate guest list, it is necessary to categorize our type of guests. First of all, we must identify those people with whom we want to share that moment, without whom it would not be worth celebrating. This list usually includes the closest family members and friends. If it is a small event, you would not need more.
When we look for a big event it is because we want to enjoy the date with more people who are equally important in our lives. This is when it starts to get complicated to decide.
Don't worry, you don't have to invite all your friends and family. If you don't hang out with them often, that is, if you haven't seen them in a year, it may be that your relationship isn't that close, so it's okay not to invite them. They'll have to understand that it's not easy to invite everyone.
There is no shortage of people who get upset after seeing wedding photos on social media. It will be up to you whether you feel it is necessary to offer an apology and explanation, arguing that the event was small, etc. We suggest you do not waste your energy on such situations.
Then there is the issue of bosses and coworkers. It may be a matter of protocol to invite your boss depending on the relationship you have, if there is no direct communication you could avoid it, otherwise it is important to include them in big events.
You can have one or two tables with the boss, his partner and some coworkers. As for coworkers, you can only invite those with whom you have a friendship or good relationship.
Another way to reduce your guest list is to significantly reduce the number of guests' companions, which you can accomplish by sending individual invitations without double passes.
A good option is to invite only couples of friends with whom you have a good relationship.
Remember that it's your celebration and it's impossible to please everyone, but there are always solutions for everything.
We share with you an example of how to make your guest list.
1.-Consider your budget
Determine how many people you can invite with a little extra room. There are always those people who insist on an extra pass or who bring crashers to the party.
2.-Make a list of all the people you could invite
It doesn't matter if they exceed the budget amount
3.-Start the discard
Categorize and delete according to your criteria
4.-Make a draft
Review your list and make any necessary adjustments.
5.-Make sure everyone confirms
There may be someone who cannot attend, it is important to take this into account when inviting someone else.
If the issue between inviting or not inviting more people is budget and your parents want to invite all their friends and acquaintances, suggest contributing money so that their extra guests can attend.
If the problem is that you don't feel comfortable with the number of people and the fact that they are strangers, it is important that you be firm in your decision and stick to the list you want.
It is true that there may be conflicts with this topic, but ultimately it is your event and there are some that are very special, for example a wedding in which the most important thing is the bride and groom.
Sources:
Acosta, L. (2019) 9 tips to reduce your guest list… and avoid migraines.Bodas.com
